How to Deal with ‘Cold Feet’ before the Wedding Day
While it’s not certain what exactly causes “cold feet,” it is common with couples soon to be married. A feeling of nervousness and anxiety often comes before major life changes. It may leave you feeling mixed emotions: anticipation, worry, and fear of the unfamiliar. Yet, these feelings are just temporary. If they linger on for long and makes you more scared than happy, then that could be a different story. Rather than end up humiliating yourself, your partner, and both of your families at the ceremony, it’s better to deal with the issue now and assess yourself against “cold feet symptoms.” Oftentimes, it is characterized by indecision, irritability, and perceived conflict between you and your partner. You may appear distant and too disinterested to even worry about wedding arrangements.
Check whether you’re worried about the wedding or the marriage
It’s normal for couples, especially the bride-to-be, to be stressed out with the wedding plans. Event organizers don’t use the term Bridezilla for nothing. Still, if you feel that you are more anxious about what happens to your life after the wedding, then it’s something you should really consider. Try to talk to your parents or some married friendd that you trust and get it all out. Address the issue by tracing its root. What exactly about married life are you anxious about? Is it about the change that’s going to happen in your social life or handling the finances? Once you found out what’s causing this anxiety, it’s easier to determine whether it’s just a case of cold feet or you’re seriously thinking that you’re about to make a wrong decision.
Treat yourself, and recall the reasons you wanted to marry your partner
Go on a “me” date and just pamper yourself. You could simply be too tensed with all the wedding plans. Having a full schedule can leave even the most organized person a bit confused, disoriented, and jumpy. Enjoy the activities that you’re afraid you won’t get to do when you’re already married. It could be all that you need to move on to the next stage. As a perk, being away from your partner may help you remember why you wanted to tie the knot in the first place.
Keep it quiet
Whether or not the soul-searching results in the wedding getting called off, it’s to your advantage to opt for a more private ceremony. Sometimes, what causes the stress is the thought of all the people who’s going to be there at your wedding. If your doubts are more than just “cold feet” episodes, then keeping things low-profile saves everyone from embarrassment.
Getting a case of “cold feet” is common for would-be-married couples. If you feel that you’re feeling it, take a moment to evaluate yourself and find the root cause of your anxiety. Spend some time enjoying your own company, and recall your partner’s best qualities. Whatever you do and decide in the end, try your best to spare everyone the humiliation.
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