How to Deal with an Ex Who’s Trying to Win You Back
An ex trying to make up or get back together can place a lot of pressure and uncertainty to most of us. This is because no matter how recent or long the breakup was, there are still remaining emotions that can wreak havoc inside of all of us. The essential question is: what do you do?
Assessment of the past
First thing to consider is, were you really happy with the relationship? Is it really worth getting back to? The challenging thing about answering these questions is that it’s hard to do with objectivity. As mentioned, the emotions involved with the past relationship will surge back up. To get some form of objectivity, you can consult close friends for some advice and get some level-headed assessment of how your relationship was.
Abusive relationship
If your past relationships involved some form of abuse, then there’s nothing to think about. You just need to decline the offer and you should move on with your life. Abuse in a relationship doesn’t really just involve physical abuse, it also includes emotional abuse. If your ex had the habit of putting you down, limiting your actions and making you feel guilty and depressed, then you were being abused in that relationship. Save yourself from the hurt and be thankful that you were free from that relationship. You don’t need to go back to that kind of life.
What if you want to get back as well?
If you still have feelings for your ex and it was not an abusive relationship, then getting back together is possible. But you don’t need to rush in. Since you’re also dealing with hurt feelings, you need to take things slow and get to know each other again.
What if you don’t want to?
You need to say no politely and firmly. Try to express your resolution positively without getting emotional. Though it would be hard to do, this is needed to give some form of closure in your relationship. By being quite formal and resolute in your expression, you can more effectively communicate your decision.
Dealing with your ex can be a roller coaster ride of emotions, but you need to stay rational and know whether you really want to get back together with your ex. But ultimately, no matter what your ex says or do, the decision to get back together will depend on you.
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Well, the decision is up to you. If the person whom you love before is trying to win you back, then just need to reminisce what happened why you end up your relationship with him. If this is not a bad breakup relationship, then you just need to weigh down things if that person really deserves you well. You need to evaluate yourself if you feel the same way like before and this person is really making an effort on winning you back. But, on the other side of the coin, if you had a bad breakup thing, then it is you really that knows it. Just think of all those situations and things that this person did to you…it is not bad to be together again as long as you know that the things that he did in the past will not happen again. As long as your happy with the things are going on…then go with it..there’s a saying that “love is happier the second time around’….;))